01be028a67 I cry a lot but this could be my time of life- and maybe I am not thinking straight. Is it inadequate to read widely and ask others for advice? Reply Bren Posted March 8, 2010 at 6:32 pm Permalink Mango Im sorry I think you misunderstood me completely! My comments were directed to the post by Sally Browne (perhaps Sally/Mango are the same person?) who said she was not good at making decisions&and youll notice I said I shared her dilemma: That is to say I LACK CONFIDENCE in my decision making, hence I share the crisis of deciding whether to walk away from or stay in my 10 year relationship. I would endorse reading the book before making a judgment on it too. I can see that it does boil down to dealing with your own feelings of inadequacy, weakness, emptiness. Is there something your partner does that makes your relationship too bad to stay in and that s/he acknowledges but that, for all intents and purposes, s/hes unwilling to do anything about? 16. Cheers all the best Mango Reply Maxine Posted March 15, 2010 at 4:26 am Permalink Im not sure the way to copy a link, but I hope this is right.
Reply mango Posted April 12, 2011 at 6:45 pm Permalink David I agree- I have read the book now- in fact several times, and each time I get different answers. A careful line of 36 questions and self-analysis techniques designed to get to the heart of relationship and marriage problems. The book needs to be worked through. If you are not in a position of having confidence in yourself, then you will doubt any choice you make, and worry that you will be able to endure either scenario staying or leaving. I also read the questions again, and still say the book needs to be read to understand them. See a counselor and look at your relationship with open eyes. I would even go so far and say that in a lot of cases the left-behind spouse, the partner who was cheated was the one who left first. I made him a list about a year ago of over 50 fun things I would like to do.
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